The mind is one of the features that differentiates human beings from animals. The human mind is forever in thought. The mind stops being active when you finally breathe your last. But is constant thinking good for the mind? What happens when you let your mind wonder into the past or explore the future unchecked? Are there any side effects of a mind that is constantly multitasking?The answers to these questions are found in the concept of mindfulness.
Perhaps the following description fits you… You are driving or doing a manual job but your mind is busy thinking about other issues. You are thinking about the friend you just quarreled with. Your thoughts are constantly on the incident and why it had to happen. Alternatively, you are pondering the future. You are almost losing your job and you don’t know what to do. You consider the bills and other financial obligations that you will have to meet without stable employment. Your thoughts are so intense that you only realise you have arrived when you see the gate to your house.
The fact is that your mind is on autopilot. You are in a state of mindlessness. There are issues going on in your mind without any need for a lot of consciousness on your part. You are not even aware of the signposts along the way. You have no idea what is happening around you. Your thoughts are clouded. It is as if your mind is floating and you cannot control what it is thinking. In essence, you have a mind but it is not conscious. It is as if it is not thinking. Your mind is missing. You are mindless.
Have you ever experienced mindlessness? If you answer in the affirmative, then you are lying. It happens to most of us. Our minds often drift into thoughts of hopelessness, anger, fear and worry among other negative emotions. This happens every day because we have problems to deal with at individual and family levels. We quarrel with others in the workplace and at home. We have the problems of others to shoulder too. How can you be happy and contented when your child is having problems in school or when one of your family members is diagnosed with cancer? In other words, we all go through moments of mindlessness at one time or the other as we deal with stress from our daily struggles.
So let us ponder the effects of mindlessness on you. While we may give excuses for engaging in this activity, experts warn that it is harmful. Your emotional and mental wellbeing are at risk when you start to daydream. Actually, you accomplish nothing worthwhile because you are not thinking critically but you are having drifting thoughts instead. In addition, research has shown that when you are in a state of mindlessness, you tend to be less happy.
Mindfulness entails being in charge of your thoughts at all times. It means that you are aware of what is happening to you in the here and now. Nothing that takes place in your thoughts, body and feelings is lost on you. You are aware of the happenings in your environment. You are not a stranger to your thoughts and you do not drift into yesterday or tomorrow. A person that is mindful is one who lives in the present irrespective of what is happening to him or her at the moment.
Another important aspect of mindfulness is that you don’t pass judgment on what is happening. Rather, you accept the current situation and do not spend time wishing that things were different. Contrast this with mindlessness and you will realize that the two concepts are miles apart. Here is a situation where you are conscious of what is happening around you, and you have the opportunity to begin thinking negatively or engage in wishful thinking, but you chose to remain a detached observer.
Mindfulness is not a new art or exercise. It has been practiced for many years and this explains why people mistake it for meditation. However, it is important to realise that mindfulness is not emptying the mind of all thoughts. It does not mean stopping to think – now that we are saying you stop being judgmental. It is more of training for the mind to let go of the past and concentrate on the present in an appreciative manner.
By now you must have realised that mindfulness is not easy to practice. We have agreed that there are many cares in the world that make us mindless. Despite this, we can train our minds to become mindful. You only have to look at some of the benefits of this activity to understand why it is crucial to train your brain to be mindful. For example, it will help you to attain mental and emotional health, which you need in this ‘insane’ world. It also lowers anxiety and stress thus sparing you other illnesses. Mindful people also make excellent spouses and marriage partners since they take time to listen to what their counterparts are saying and attend to it. They are also more practical in their approach to life issues as opposed to being idealistic.
It is time you seriously considered training your brain to be mindful and to eschew mindlessness. Scientists opine that a brain that is mindful performs better on issues that require application of reasoning and logic. People who embrace mindfulness are also likely to overcome terminal illnesses or manage such diseases better than those who aren’t.
Read more about tips how to practice Mindfulness in our next article on Monday!
I think I need to admit, that I am a bit obsessed with burning incenses at home! I even suspect the whole building smells of it when I burn them in my apartment and the neighbours must think there is a Krishna Temple somewhere inside the house! LOL! But to burn incense, you don’t have to be religious, a Krishna believer or a Buddhist. Just read the real and good benefits that you can get from burning them, from different perspectives…
What is Incense?
Incense is a fragrant biotic substance that emits aromatic smoke as it burns. Substances may also be mixed with essential oils, spices, tree bark and flowers to create certain fragrances and aromas. Different cultures have varied ways of preparing incense and technology has created even more methods!
Who burns Incense?
Ancient Egyptians would burn incense to worship their Gods and for being near them and to their Gods too. Today Christian churches burn them for religious ceremonies and liturgy. In Asia many people burn them not only at the temples but also at their homes to honour their Gods, for rituals and to purify and protection from any bad spirits.
Want to concentrate more?
A famous Chinese healer teaches that – “Monks recognised this benefit of incense long ago and use it during their meditation to clear the air as well as their thoughts.” Craftsmen practice the same to ensure they don’t lose focus when creating artefacts, jewellery and ornaments.
I love meditating when burning the incense at home in front of my Buddha. It connects me into a different place, the atmosphere changes and my thoughts become quiet, I travel into a different time and my mind disappears into my sanctuary!
Need a creativity injection?
If you are a writer, musician or any other creative artist you can spike your imagination and creativity by burning incense! The exciting aroma of incense can work like gorgeous scenery, an inspiring song or a quiet walk in the woods – or even better – in generating ideas and creativity to work on them.
Feeling low on morale?
We all feel it at times and burning incense can also change all of this. Incense is known to have air-purifying qualities. It destroys or wards off bacteria, fungi and insects. According to some experts, “incense increases positive energy and drives away negative energy.”
Is your confidence tank empty?
Confidence is very crucial for any activity that you undertake and incense can greatly boost your self-assurance. If your burn incense, it can help you to be more confident and successful!
Need to boost your libido?
If you are looking for an aphrodisiac, look no further! Your sexual appetite is bound to increase, even as your confidence grows exceptionally with every scent of incense you imbibe. An incense guru holds that “If a couple uses incense together, the smells will kick in the pheromone effect and they most likely will have a hard time keeping their hands off each other.” Wow, not bad for an incense…
You can avert bacterial infections by disinfecting the air with Myrrh and other forms of incense. If your nose is blocked or you have a throbbing head, burning and imbibing incense will bring you fast relief. You also can use incense to fight depression and anxiety and overcome insomnia. Simply burn them at homes to enjoy its pleasant aroma!
Despite all this great benefits, remember it is really very, very important to use only organic / natural incense! It is more safer for your health, respiratory system and is non-addictive, the type that has some synthetic substances or is burned using charcoal can harm you! I would recommend Japanese incense, they are generally more refined then others and are the best from my experience. Nippon Kodo Since 1575.
Tibetan incenses are very natural and light. In India the incense tends to be rougher and very strong in aroma. Additionally, incense can have healing effects, but if your condition worsens, consult a doctor. Personally and if I am honest, sometimes I feel the burning smoke aromas are a bit to strong for me even if I do like the fragrance. If you burn it in small rooms, I would recommend opening the windows and letting some fresh air in.
So don’t overuse it to much, you don’t have to burn the incense everyday and every hour! You can burn them few times or even once a week. So when I feel more sensitive to the smells, I just let them burn (in a safe place) when I leave the house, so when I come back I have a nice aroma, clean energy and good spirit at home!
Sex is meant to be enjoyed by those involved in it. For many, it presents the opportunity to lift the partner and oneself into a world of pure passion and satisfaction. No wonder then that everybody craves for the big O – orgasm. But is the big O all that is important in sex?
It has become the norm for many to approach the sexual act with the sole purpose of getting personal fulfillment without any regard as to the feelings of the other person. More often than not, one partner is left dissatisfied and unhappy. They feel cheated by their satisfied partners and sometimes have no desire to engage in sex with the same partner in future.
Sex As A Spiritual Journey And Encounter
To reverse this trend that exists since 5,000 years ago, try Tantric Sex. Tantric Sex is a philosophy that presents sexuality as a spiritual engagement. Tantra in Sanskrit means “woven together”. It is based on the tenet that sex is about radiating energy between partners by exploring sexuality. Unlike conventional sexual approaches, when you engage in Tantric Sex, you are not merely in search of orgasm, but your goal is to engage in an enriching and holistic sexual experience.
Reaching Out To A Higher Power
Tantra is not a religion. However, it offers you the opportunity to practice your beliefs if you are the kind of person who believes that sex should create a link between you and a supernatural being. Tantric Sex is also for you if you want to deepen the linkage between you and your lover. The good thing is that you are not required to ad here to a set of religious dogma to enjoy Tantric Sex.
How Different Is Tantric Sex?
By now you are familiar with the narrative of sex that we have been taught to adhere to: the unequivocal beginning (sexual anticipation), the middle (physical penetration) and the culmination (orgasm). Well, you will be surprised to know that Tantric Sex deviates from this norm and encourages feeling and slowing down to enjoy the sexual experience.
How To Practice Tantric Sex
It all begins with preparing you’re a nice comfortable area for sex, ensuring the it is comfy and aromatizing the room with sensual scents. But not your bedroom, as in the bedroom we automatically want to go to sleep. The next step is to synchronize your breathing with that of your partner before actual penetration. Tantric Sex also demands that you open your eyes and maintain that stance when making love as this will create precious memories to keep you going as you wait for the next encounter with your partner. Finally, make love slowly, taking time to focus your thoughts on your partner and build sexual and spiritual energy together.
Why Tantric Sex?
It is important to view your spouse or sexual partner as a human being with feelings. Further, there is a lot of positive energy that you can derive from the other person during sex. Additionally, Tantric Sex brings you closer to your supreme being. In essence, this is not just sex – it is a lasting and unforgettable experience.
Read more about Tantra and practical exercises in my next articles!
Human beings crave good things. No one wishes himself or herself bad luck. We all wake up with the desire to have a good day and good fortune. Unfortunately, it does not always happen the way we want it. We have to contend with negative events and people.
On the other hand, happiness is not an option if you want to live a fulfilling life. From the onset, it is important to understand that even science attests to the healing and rejuvenating qualities of happiness. In essence, you simply have to find ways of being happy despite the negative circumstances that may be surrounding you.
Further, you need to realise that happiness will not just happen to you. You must create happiness consciously and deliberately. You must pursue happiness the same way you endeavour to place food on the table. Remember, happiness is an attitude and not a fixed state. Even if you are given all the material things in this world, you will still need to make the decision to be happy.
Let us analyse some strategies through which you can begin to be happy or increase your level of happiness in spite of all the reasons that life gives you to be unhappy…
Wow! What a way to start? You ask. And I mean it. Pretend that you are happy. Smile when circumstances are not favourable to you. Instead of inviting pity from others, act like you are happy. It is a habit you have to calculate over time until you finally master it. Didn’t you here that practice makes perfect? This maxim is also applicable to making yourself adopt a happy disposition. When you give your mind the impression that all is well, you will infect your heart with the same warmth and every part of you will begin to feel happy. And of course remember like attracts like !
Watch Who You Let Close To You
Some of the people you call family and friends are the ones who bring unhappiness into your life. Please don’t think that I hate these people because I don’t even know them. You know that you can’t stand some of them. The moment that colleague comes near you, your moods plunge and you feel like a blanket of sadness has come over you. Simply put, you cannot become happy in their presence. Please do yourself a favour and minimise contact with such people. Take a walk or vacation when necessary. Don’t let people surround you with negative energy. Remember that even if they are family members, you have only one life to live and nobody should steal your happiness.
Surround Yourself With People Who Love You
This may sound like another way of saying what I said in the previous point, but there is more to it. Do you have these people whom you feel comfortable around and who lift your spirits at all times? Some of them are family members or former schoolmates who know you more than anybody else. I am referring to that guy who reminds you of a silly game you played when you were young. I have in mind the people who remain with you whether the sun appears to have dropped a few meters towards you or it is raining hail. These people celebrate you and comfort you. Your happiness is closely linked with them. When they are not around you feel like your heart is empty. Seek for the company of such folks all the time and you will always be happy.
Speak Positively To Yourself
There is one person who will always be with you and whose company you should seek and cultivate. Look at the mirror and that person will look back at you and smile. Learn to appreciate yourself. Nobody knows what you are capable of doing more than yourself. When despair sets, in recall those moments when you went through trouble and came out strong. Speak to yourself and affirm that you are going to have a good day. Tell yourself that no problem is beyond you. Practice speaking audibly to yourself and mention your name as you speak. Create affirmative statements that you can speak to encourage yourself, and happiness will be yours.
There is some magical power in expressing gratitude either to others or simply acknowledging the many positive things in your life. Think about it this way: how many of the people you knew when you were young are alive today? How would you like to exchange places with a homeless refugee in a war-torn country like Syria? How about spending your nights in the cold because you are homeless? Would you like to take the place of the terminally ill person abandoned by family and friends in a hospice and who longs to die more than to live? Think about that sibling or parent who is always there for you and the little angel that smiles and waves at you when you leave your house to go to work. I can assure you that thinking about these things before you go to sleep, when you wake up and when unfortunate events happen to you, will lift your spirit almost immediately.
Negative thoughts and despondency are the reason many people live unhappily. Perhaps you know people who always see the negative side of life. I know folks who are so much negative minded that even when you give them a present they want to know whether you have a hidden motive. It is possible that your pessimism is as a result of very many negative happenings in your life, but that does not give you the reason to become a prophet of doom. Sometimes we tend to exaggerate negative situations when there is actually a positive angle to an issue. It is true that life has many bad happenings but there is a lot more that is positive that you need to celebrate today. Instead of agonising at that negative issue that you cannot change, why not begin another project that can harness your strengths and capabilities?
Find a purpose in life and endeavour to always work in the occupation or profession which you believe you were called or created to do.
Identify negative habits that contribute to your unhappiness and replace them with habits that make you feel valuable and loved by your friends and family.
Collect nuggets of wisdom that you can feed on every morning and evening, most of which can be found in religious and motivational books.
Begin a project or activity that brings happiness to others, like visiting people in need and donating towards their upkeep.
Join clubs or societies than engage in activities that you find uplifting and enjoyable to do, like communal work.
Increase your happiness by reading books written by your favourite authors and whose ideologies you share.
If you have some favourite type of music, set everything aside and treat yourself to your favourite musical sounds.
Watch a movie or comedy that gladdens your heart and appeals to your humour because as your laugh about the foolishness of the actors you will be eradicating your won unhappiness.
Engage in some childish behaviour that you used to do when you were young. For example, play some games with children and enjoy reliving childhood memories.
Live in the present; perform those activities that make you happy today instead of waiting for tomorrow which you are not even sure you will live to see.
One of these days you may come across a donkey hauling luggage, take a good look at it, because that could be mirroring an image of you. Life is an ironic struggle where we often rush to meet deadlines and targets while forgetting to ‘feed the cow that produces the milk’. You work your ass off in the quest for a king’s life only to die a pauper that never enjoyed life!
Losing contact with yourself is the worst mistake you can make in life. Often we search for the solutions to loneliness and lethargy in other places while the real source of these complications is in our detached soul.
What you need is a trip into your inner self and the best way to do this is to take a spiritual journey to the Osho Meditation Resort…
Appreciating Osho Meditation Resort
I know you are likely to dismiss this as yet another boring article by a yoga enthusiast who has nothing more to do but stare into emptiness, but before you do so let me tell you about the Osho Meditation Resort.
First, it is in India. I can see weird thoughts crisscrossing your mind already – tropical sun, saris, robes, rice, onions, spices, monkeys, rickshaws, traffic, monks, vegetarians, imposing temples and so on. I would be lying if I said you will not come across these real and imagined images of India.
However a 15 minute flight from Mumbai to Koregaon Park in Pune will do you good! Yes, rickshaws are not the only means of transport in India – there are airplanes too! The beauty that awaits you will erase all your lopsided impressions about India and its people; more importantly, this camp effortlessly blends nature and modernity.
Walking in marble
Have you ever walked on marble in the midst of elegant buildings and green vegetation, along a swimming pool only fit for Olympic champions? That is the Osho Meditation Resort for you. And the surprise does not end there. This is virtually an international meeting point if the meditators from over 100 countries are to be considered. This resort gives you the opportunity to not only interact with global yoga enthusiasts but also relax, swim, rest, meditate or simply be yourself.
Not for nut-heads and hermits
I often meet people who think that yoga is a dark art; a mystical oriental ritual only fit for nut-heads and hermits who have lost touch with humanity! This resort will help you understand and practice basic Osho Active Meditations, which are designed for the modern person who has to contend with a lot of stress and psychological strain.
Whether you are the neophyte trying to learn how to salute the sun or you are the experienced meditation expert that needs no prompt to fall into a trance, Osho Meditation Resort is designed for you. There are numerous methods of meditation at this centre including traditional approaches such as Vipassana and more modern ones like Osho Kundalini and dance meditation.
The Osho Multiversity is also open for eager learners. Please don’t develop stomachache because of your fear of exams – there are none here! At least the founders of the centre knew you would visit one day and did not want to scare you away!
The Osho Meditation Centre also has workshops that you can participate in to enable you develop your mental and spiritual capabilities. At the end of each day, a spectacular evening of celebration, dance and even silence awaits you.
Daily and in-house programs
By the way, you do have the choice of going to the centre daily for meditation or pitching tent at the resort to soak up all the meditation knowledge and benefits available, like a human sponge!
What happens when you visit Osho?
Your wonderful experience at the Osho Meditation Resort begins at the Welcome Center right at the entrance where you register. This helps shield off busy-bodies and I am guessing you are not one. Please don’t visit the Welcome Centre unless it is between 9.00 am to 1.00 pm and 2.00 pm to 4.00 pm daily. It amazes me as to where staff members get their infectious smiles and the resourceful answers they give. Registration takes place up to 12.30 pm for the morning session while afternoon registration activity takes place up to 3.30 pm.
What do you need for registration?
The Osho Meditation Resort is a law abiding entity and requires interested visitors to present valid identification papers. Don’t come with your boutique, supermarket or airline receipts please. Keep them as souvenirs and only present your ID or passport.
Mandatory HIV /Aids Test
This may be scary depending on your sexual history and escapades, but prepare for a HIV test before being admitted into the Osho Meditation Resort. You don’t have to read for the test – it is just 15 minutes of waiting and you know your fate. The resort will reward you with a Meditation Resort pass once you are deemed fine.
Daily Stickers for entrance
After registration, all you will need to exist within the resort are daily stickers which you can purchase when entering. You may also opt for seasonal tickets if you become a fan – or are you a meditation and yoga fanatic?
How about buying items in the park?
Please leave your cash and notes at home – nobody is interested in your poverty or wealth at the Osho Meditation Resort! Grab some vouchers (of course you have to pay for these) at the Welcome Centre as they are the legal tender there.
The Welcome Morning
Avoid the temptation to oversleep and be at the centre by 9.00 am to participate in the Welcome Morning, which introduces you to the campus, the programs of the Osho Multiversity and Osho Meditations. In the unfortunate event that you arrive at 9.01 am, don’t despair because you will listen to a brief introduction audio in your language of choice. But do not be cheated because you still have to arrive at 8.59 am the following day for the Welcome Morning.
What about residents?
You can register and live in the camp. There is a Living in Program for those on a long pilgrimage. Getting to know fellow meditators is an extra incentive for zero grazing yourself. This is a good option if you are allergic to traffic and rickshaws that characterise the life of a day scholar.
Can you stay off campus?
You can stay at any of the affordable and comfortable hotels in the vicinity of Osho Meditation Resort. But as one of my friends found out, you may arrive at the resort after some important activities have taken place.
How much will it cost you?
A meditation pass is the guarantee that you can remain in the resort between 5.30 am and late night and also access the OSHO Teerth Garden, the OSHO Auditorium and the evening programs.
Those with entry stickers are allowed into meditation programs for the entire day. They also attend the Buddha Grove open-air classes.
Stickers are available either for 1-10 days’ period or for an entire month. 1-4 days; entry stickers will cost you 1560 INR every day if you are not a resident of India, while citizens and residents have to pay 760 INR for the same package. If you opt for tickets to allow you access for 5 to 6 days, you will get a 13% discount if you are a foreigner, which means you will pay 1,326 INR. For residents and nationals, this package will cost 646 INR.
I almost forgot to tell you that the cost of food, drinks, accommodation and courses and workshops offered by the Osho Multiversity are on the Osho website!
Communicating with the outside world while at the resort?
You can visit the cybercafé within the Osho Meditation Resort and pay a little fee for Wi-Fi internet. You can also make calls but only in designated areas. Nobody wants to be disturbed by long noisy and hysterical calls when they are meditating. And forget about selfies as all sorts of photo taking activities are prohibited.
Who is allowed to visit?
Everyone is welcome! The resort receives people from more than a hundred nations on the planet. Whether you are a businessman, policeman or an artisan, you will find relaxation and fun at the Osho Meditation Centre – And age does not matter, too. Both young and old will realise that their needs are well taken care of at the centre. Don’t be surprised if you find you grandfather walking around the resort in a maroon robe!
Majority of those who visit this centre are university graduates. So if you thought meditation was for lowly-educated and superstitious oriental people think twice. But education is not a requirement for meditation! Don’t be cheated into thinking that you are the odd one out because you see people at the centre greeting each other, half of the people whom you will meet here are first-time visitors just like you.
Why should I go?
Countless people find time to visit this resort for the sake of enjoyment. If you feel you need time to shed off some of your pent-up emotions, visit the centre and relax both in mind and spirit. There are those who come to the park for the purpose of learning at the Osho Multiversity. There is no better place to understand meditation than this resort. You may also want to pop in if you have come to India on a different mission. You will never regret walking through the doors of this resort! The sheer numbers you will find here will convince you that you need to have visited sooner.
What kind of a product is envisioned?
This may sound like rocket science for the uninitiated, but the resort has a vision for the human race in this age. The intention is to come up with a human beings who are well-grounded while simultaneously reaching for greater heights. The Osho product is a jovial person, who interacts readily with others, but also retreats to meditate in silence. It does not matter what values you believe in, your space is preserved in this special garden.
Do you need to be a member?
This is a ridiculous lie propagated from those who have no understanding of what it means to visit this resort!! The centre does not belong to an exclusive club. There are no special people who must be admitted and others rejected. All you need is to be prepared to come to grips with you inner self and to develop a deeper and beneficial understanding of who you really are.
You may have heard that people who come to the resort are initiated into “sannyas”, which is another misconception. It is upon the individual to decide whether to enrol or not. Personally, I find no problem with Smith assuming the name William if only to come to grips with his inner self and begin a new fulfilling life.
When you decide to engage in “sannyas” Osho tells you that you have committed yourself to his guidance and he will not interfere with your life. Just dedicate yourself to transformation – while acting responsibly. Only through courage will you achieve your meditation goals.
Are visitors required to join movements or cults?
By its very nature, meditation is not a crowd activity. Osho Meditation Resort encourages you to join your inner self in order to grow into a more conscious and happier person. You cannot meditate effectively unless you appreciate and practice some form of solitary living.
Osho methods are transformative – requiring a personal paradigm shift. Osho advocates for are meant to destroy the misconceptions you have about yourself, thus leaving your soul utterly naked and ready for a new experience. He opines that you can only understand the truth by being alone and that truth is you. He believes that no great spiritual teacher can teach you the truth because the truth is found in you – by engaging in meditation. Meditation is not practiced in market places, football stadiums or politically rallies!
However, realising this dream is not like drinking water or eating a favourite meal – it requires courage. At Osho Meditation Resort you have all the tools you need and the concomitant environment to meditate. Interestingly, there are many other people at the centre pursuing the same goal, and being alone with them (if you can comprehend what this means), is not only easy but also enjoyable.
Is there a dress code?
Here is the interesting part, especially for men who cannot wear women’s clothing! At this renowned meditation centre, visitors wear lose-fitting plain maroon robes (I can hear you breathe a sigh of relief that it is not a skirt or dress). This is mandatory for everyone within the resort and especially during meditation. You will wear this robe between 9 am and 4 pm, while performing daytime tasks. It is also the attire that you will wear when performing OSHO Kundalini Meditations and OSHO Dynamic.
Do you want to know why people wear maroon robes at the resort?
Maroon robes act as uniform attire and make people feel part of the resort and of one another.
Unlike wearing different clothes, uniformity enables you to focus on your inner self instead of the outside.
There is mutual meditative energy that emanates from collective wearing of the colour maroon.
If you are a woman (and this also applies to some men) you will not need to worry about matching the colour of your clothes in the morning, hence giving you more time to focus on the more important task of meditation.
Pune is in the tropics and temperature can hit the extreme north and south.
This attire will free your body from the bondage of belts and other constricting body accessory that makes breathing and meditation problematic.
If you are not from India, you can at least boast to your folks back at home that you survived for some time in a robe!
What others are saying about Osho and the Osho Meditation Resort
You are not the first person to discover Osho Meditation Resort! No medal awaits you for that. At least not for now! Osho’s teachings and methodologies have over the years been commended by religious leaders, actors, politicians, musicians and writers among others. These include Tom Cruise, Madonna, The Dalai Lama, Tom Robbins and Dr. Manmohan Singh to name a few. I am not sure whether you can become a clone of Madonna or Tom Cruise at your age, but I am sure meditation and this experience at the resort can give you a new lease of life at any age.
Time to visit
Don’t read history any more – make history now! There are few pilgrimages that can transform you the way a visit to the Osho Meditation Resort can. Make a commitment today and visit the Osho Meditation Resort!
When I first realised that Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs had listed sex as a basic need, I thought the man must have been a pervert. I was young and naïve then. Today, I know he was right. It is for this reason that I find the topic of sex drive necessary and interesting even though some people consider it taboo. But there is a problem we must deal with, whether we want to speak about it or not.
Do you need some sex drive? What kind of question am I asking? The innuendo surrounding issues of sex has made people to suffer from lack of libido for many years. I am not ready to bet my money because people rarely want to talk about their sexual experiences and needs, but I am sure most of the people you will meet on the streets today are sexually starved.
Stress and mental fatigue are responsible for the sex-less life many of us lead today. There are so many cares and people have to attend to so many concerns on a daily basis that they have no time for sex. When the man and woman of the house finally finish taking dinner and send the kids to bed, they (couple) are too tired to have some fun in bed. All they want is to catch a few hours of sleep before embarking on the next day’s activities. Sex can only be enjoyed when people are in the mood for it. There is no way your libido will spike when you are thinking about financial problems that await you when you wake up.
There are also many of us in broken marriages where there is no communication as would be expected. These are marriages that are on their deathbeds because of unresolved issues. The partners cannot see eye to eye and those who are together are simply doing so because they have children to take care of. Even when they sleep in the same bed, the two marriage partners are simply strangers. In such a case, unless each of the partners takes decisive steps to save the marriage, sex will never be discussed. But when the sex drive of each of the two is revived, there is hope that the relationship will be given a new lease of life and the partners can begin to enjoy being together once again.
But there are also those who have no problem with one another yet they cannot find the spark that would make blood boil again. They are not enemies. They are doing well in their careers. They are happy with life as it is. But sex appears to have taken a flight. How do you revive sex drive on this case? Remember, sex is essential to a successful marriage and going without it for long will lead to partners drifting apart and eventually divorcing. Some people may not agree with this assertion, but the fact is that sooner or later one or both of the partners will have to seek for sex and consolation outside marriage.
Admittedly, sex cannot solve all marital problems. Partners who are incompatible may eventually leave their relationships. Differences that can be resolved must be brought to the table and discussed amicably. Compromises must be made. Sometimes relatives and marriage counselor must be called in to mediate. Despite all this, the issue of libido, if unresolved will bring all the other solutions to naught. It is for this reason that we must find ways of reviving sex drive in marriage and other intimate relationships.
The first point in addressing issues of libido is to understand that hormones play a great role in determining whether you are in the mood for sex or not. I agree that you can light candles, eat a delicious dinner, play the most romantic music and wear some lingerie before you dive under warm sheets, but this cannot by itself give you the sex drive you need. Spiking your sex-related hormones is the most assured strategy of putting you in the mood for passion, not just today but for a long time. I need to caution you, though, that using synthetic substances to revive your libido may work momentarily but this may lead to hormonal balances that will harm your body.
That is why I want to suggest that you use natural methods which have no side effects if taken in the right quantity and quality. To this end there are herbs, fruits and other food substances that can greatly boost your libido without you having to turn to popular but harmful substances that can even cause heart attacks.
Let us have a look at some of these important super-foods that can bring you happiness, passion and good health, and more importantly, provide you with more moments of unbridled romance.
These abundant fruits contain antioxidants, which in turn boost blood circulation in your heart and arteries. By now you know that efficient blood circulation is a prerequisite for great sex. Need I add that they contain vitamin C which helps to increase the amount of sperms in semen?
This is a super-fruit that is full of antioxidants, vitamin B6 and potassium. These nutrients are crucial in preventing you from getting heart diseases and also boost blood flow. A strong heart is the best medicine against erectile dysfunction thus boosting your libido.
These beans are packed with L-Dopa or dopamine which is a potent aphrodisiac. L-Dopa is effective in stimulating the secretion of testosterone, the male hormone that boosts libido. Mucuna beans also replenish jing (or vital essence) of the body thus boosting sexual activity.
Orchic (Bull Testicles)
Please read on before you think I am deranged. I am talking about a supplement that is made from bull testicles and is available in capsule form. This substance contains hormones that will boost your sex hormones and libido.
This is an extract from some of the most ‘romantic’ animals on earth. This product contains powerful hormones for boosting your libido. Specifically, the contents of this substance aid calcium movement, ease muscle movement, regulate blood pressure and smooth inflammation.
There are many more natural foods and supplements that you can use to boost your libido. Take time to know and use them!!
n my previous article, I have described, ” What is Mindfulness? “ (http://graceguru.net/2015/10/what-is-mindfulness/) and how good and bifacial it is for us to be mindfully aware of our lives and ourselves. So if you have not read it yet, I would recommend reading it first and then continuing with the tips of how to practice Mindfulness, if you have 10 more minutes?
The field of mindfulness has become very popular not only among psychologists and spiritual people, but also other professionals and the general public. There is a keen interest from the broad nation after people realised the amazing benefits of this activity. It is as if people have suddenly recognised the importance of mindfulness, yet this is a practice that has been ongoing for ages!
Having said that, we need to realise that practicing mindfulness is not that easy. Your brain is more likely to embrace mindlessness than mindfulness. Although the former is harmful in the long run, it appears to be more attractive perhaps because it consists of endless reveries, which lie to you that you are making progress when you are going nowhere. Mindlessness also expends very little mental and physical effort thus making it a favorite of many of us.
The reason I am emphasising on these issues at the onset is because any tips for practicing mindfulness must begin with the realisation that this is not a walk in the park. After being accustomed to daydreaming and drifting thoughts for a long time, it is not easy to suddenly embrace mindfulness and excel in it. The tips we are about to discuss are all informed by the fact that you need to be consciously aware of what you are doing if you are to tame your thoughts.
“When I practice mindfulness, I am able to connected to the present moment and let go of all the stress and worries”
Create Time For Practicing Mindfulness!
I will emphasise severely that this is a conscious activity that requires some effort. At the beginning when you are just about to start practicing, you need to treat it the way you do gym workouts, prayer or other routines in your life. Consider setting aside some minutes in your daily schedule during which you can concentrate on the present. You can do this at your workplace, your home or outdoors. However, ensure you are in an environment that is conducive for concentration. Once you create a schedule, stick to it. Make it a ritual to always engage in mindfulness. I suggest you do it daily!
Do Not Over Do It Or Strain!
So when you are have tried your everyday schedule at the beginning, you will need to encourage yourself to like mindfulness a bit more J. Consequently, do not make the exercise tedious and difficult for you. Now, try to remember mindfulness during the day and start with a few minutes more now and then, as you appreciate the importance of mindfulness. With time, you may find yourself concentrating for hours. The most important thing, though, is that you learn to love and appreciate the exercise to the point that it becomes effortless. Making it hard will discourage you in the long run and you will drift back to undesirable mindlessness.
Practice Mindfulness Outside Your Normal Schedule!
We began by saying that you set aside time for practicing mindfulness. That is good but since your aim is to eventually become a habitual and involuntary practitioner of mindfulness, consider engaging in the activity even when it is not within the hours you have set aside. Just take time to observe and appreciate your surrounding when you are waiting to see a doctor or a friend. As you take a train journey through the countryside, don’t let your mind wonder aimlessly. Instead, grasp the moment and appreciate nature, the people around you and the journey itself.
“When you practice mindfulness, it becomes every time easier and natural over time.”
Forget About Perfection!
When you begin to worry about perfection instead of doing what you can, you are engaging in mindlessness. Don’t waste your time thinking about how poor you are in your attempts to become mindless. It is not an event but a process and processes take time to learn and master. Worrying about imperfections will only lead to despair and you may even contemplate quitting the activity. Concentrate on attaining your goals for the day and if you don’t make it, endeavor to do so tomorrow. Don’t judge yourself harshly but rather appreciate the gains you make every day.
Watch Your Thoughts!
Mindfulness and mindlessness are all activities that take place in your brain. Since we are more likely to be mindless, it is important to begin by catching yourself in the act as it were. Learn to detect when your mind is on autopilot and redirect it to the present. You know yourself better than anybody else. You know when the reveries and day-dreaming begin. Only you can tell when your past comes back to haunt your present. Those are the moments when you should redirect your thoughts from mindlessness to mindfulness.
Engage In Meditation!
If you are not aware, mindfulness is not mediation but the latter is part of the former. In case you are finding it difficult to engage in mindfulness, meditation can be a good starting point. Meditation is a renowned and proven strategy for training the mind to relax and concentrate on certain issues. When you engage in meditation, you accelerate your process of becoming mindful. The two work in tandem when it comes to conditioning the mind and learning to control what you think and how you react to your experiences in life.
“Meditation is a renowned and proven strategy for training the mind to relax and concentrate on certain issues.”
When all is said and done, you are the best judge on exactly how well you are progressing towards mindfulness. Whatever you realise is working for you, concentrate on that as long as it will lead you to the ultimate goal of becoming mindful. If prayer makes you mindful, feel free to practice it. No amount of tips and other people’s experiences can replace your own efforts. Remember your aim is to overcome chronic mindlessness and train your mind to appreciate the present without being judgmental.
Now that you know, begin where you are with what you have. When the benefits of mindfulness begin to manifest in your life, you will be glad you made the effort.
Few books to recommend if you really like to understand the moment of now and be mindful:
The world of wealth creation has undergone many changes in recent days to the extent that people now know that there is a science behind this endeavour. In essence, to become wealthy you need more than investment and prudent management of your savings. Attracting wealth is now understood to be a matter of mentality. While this does not mean that you discard what you already know about wealth creation, it places upon you the obligation to seek for more information on how you can attract wealth.
It All Begins With Beliefs
Over the years, we have known that what we believe influences how we live. You are the sum of your beliefs and pertinent action. But let us concentrate on the beliefs part because it determines how we behave and whether we can attract wealth or not. When you hold some beliefs very closely to your heart you tend to act to actualise your convictions.
Ideology, dogma, philosophy or whatever you call it, can be a power for good or evil in your life. We have witnessed what deranged religious extremists are doing in Iraq and Syria owing to mistaken interpretation of religious beliefs. Conversely, many schools, hospitals, orphanages, hospices and other forms of charity are there to help the disadvantaged thanks to people who subscribe to one form of religion or the other. In essence, faith and belief can become powers for good.
Let us now return to the issue of money. Did you know what you believe about money may give or deny you this important measure of wealth? I know you may not have thought seriously about this but some of the belief you hold about money are the reason you have stagnated monetarily. I also need to point out that you many not even be aware of these beliefs. You may have held them for so long that you have come to assume they are true even when they are mere negative perceptions.
For you to have the mentality that attracts wealth, you must first understand and assess what you believe. You cannot have mistaken and negative beliefs about money and expect to attract it to you. It is hard for you to go around taking ill of money and expect it will naturally come to you. Unfortunately, many of us have never taken time to scrutinise what they believe about money and the repercussions of such perceptions.
Remember the more you believe in something the more you are likely to defend it and live according to its dictates. Consequently, those who have adopted the right mentality will continue to attract more wealth, while those who choose to have negative beliefs about money will end up lacking it most of the time.
Money Beliefs To Avoid
As I said before, you are likely not to even know that what you believe is causing you some disadvantage. That is why some of the mistaken beliefs I will cite will catch some readers off guard.
Have you ever heard someone say that they will never become rich? You may even be one of those who say so. Perhaps you said it in jest as you interacted with other people. But words have power behind them. As you repeat these words or similar statements they become ingrained in your mind and become beliefs. Eventually such beliefs become strong cords that bind you to lack, scarcity and poverty.
You may also have come across people who say that there is scarcity in the world and that resources are never enough. This is another pitfall that you may have fallen into without even realising it. Some of these beliefs are inherited from our parents. We were taught to share and to know that we can never have enough of what we want. Somehow, we came to project that into our monetary lives and it became a self-fulfilling prophesy.
Once you believe this crap, not even time will be adequate for you. You will always be rushing and never accomplishing what you planned to. You see, your mind must find resources inadequate so that you don’t think you are insane. You have to see and experience what you have always believed to be true.
Did someone ever tell you that money does not grow on trees? And you believed what they told you – essentially that money is not as abundant as leaves and you would rather make do with what you have. By the way, it is true that money does not grow on trees. But that is where the problem lies. Trees are everywhere; if you cannot see trees, you are in a desert. This is the definition of poverty and lack. You will come across money on rare occasions because it will not be available on the few trees in your world.
Another fallacy about money is a derived from the good book. You must have heard people saying money is the root of all evil. What naysayers don’t tell you is that the root of all evil is the love of money, not money itself. What this kind of belief does to you is to make you hate money. You view it as the reason you and the rest of humanity are in constant pain. How then will money become your friend if you hate it?
Affirmations To Counter Negative Beliefs On Wealth
The best way to counter self-limiting beliefs, that tie you strongly to poverty, is to create positive affirmations that you can recite and replace with misconceptions.
If you have always believed you will never become rich, begin to create affirmations that you are going to overcome your situation. Craft your statement to remind you that you are living abundantly even now. This will create the right atmosphere for you to attract wealth into your life.
Instead of believing and saying that you don’t have enough money, create an affirmation to indicate that you are grateful for what you have. Let it sink into your mind that you appreciate whatever you have accumulated up to now. Gratitude is a powerful strategy for attracting wealth, good fortune and wellbeing.
If you have been saying that you have no time to do everything that you have to, it is time to create an affirmation that will replace this negative belief. I know you believe you have a lot on your hands every day to the extent that you have to multitask. However, you need to understand that multitasking accomplishes much less compared to concentrating on one task. You are better off believing and affirming that you have enough time to do all that is facing you. That way you will fill your mind with thoughts of abundance.
They have been telling you that money does not grow on trees. Create an affirmative statement to counter this. Tell yourself every day that money is flowing abundantly in your life. Do not talk about lack but availability of money.
You have believed that money is the root of all evil, but now you know that that is a fallacy. You need to affirm that you have enough money. Your affirmation should emphasize that all you financial needs are met within your current situation. This will create a situation in which money is abundant in your life. Create an affirmation that money will be the source of good things for you.
Crucial Exercises For People With A Mentality To Create Wealth
Write down all the limitations you find in your life, especially by noting how you feel about various issues related to wealth such as money and your job. Be very sincere as you do this. Write what comes into your mind and study the material to see whether there are any trends.
Now transform each of the negatives into a positive because every drawback is an opportunity to learn and grow. Ensure you find the silver lining in every limitation that is making you not achieve your wealth targets.
Practice creating visual images of the person you want to become. Set aside a quiet time when you can create mental pictures. Where possible, have real pictures of the house you want to live in, the holiday destination you want to visit and so on.
Write down your affirmations in positive terms. Take time to craft them in the best language that appeals to your mind and which you can even memorize. Make a copy that you can post on the wall in your bedroom or other convenient place. Carry a copy of your affirmations in your wallet. Have another copy in your computer or phone.
Create an appropriate time to recite your affirmations, preferably first thing in the morning and before you sleep in the evening. However, during the day, take time to read through the affirmations on your computer, phone or the note in your wallet.
In conclusion, you can only attract wealth if you have the right mentality and this implies changing your negative beliefs into positive ones!!
We live in a world full of activities. Every day has its own struggles, joys and sorrows. Sometimes we win; other moments are spent agonising over defeat. In all these things, there is one aspect of our bodies that gains or suffers the most – the soul.
Have you ever asked yourself why we detox our bodies and not our souls? Try this now: go to your search engine and type, ‘body detox’. See the flood of information that is on the web related to cleansing our bodies! We spend so much time and money giving our physical bodies new looks while neglecting our spiritual needs.
There are many ways that your body will tell you that you have accumulated a lot of filth in the inner sanctum. You need to listen keenly to what your body is communicating to you to know when to go into a spiritual garage for some maintenance. This happens especially when we have no regular schedules for taking care of our souls the way we do with our bodies.
When your body goes for days without getting in touch with bath water, the stink in your breath and armpits announces to you and the rest of the world that you are missing something important. Isn’t that why you take a bath every morning and evening? Please don’t brush your teeth for a day or two and see how many people will want to be in your company!
In the same way, when you have taken time before attending to your spiritual needs, you stink to the high heavens! Your friends know it; you are also aware, but sometimes you are too blind to notice. That is why you need to continue reading this article to find out how you can tell that it is time to go for a spiritual bath.
What Causes Spiritual Starvation?
But before we venture into the symptoms, let us take a brief look at the causes of spiritual poverty and hunger. There are many and varied reason for this condition. Let’s start with what you feed your body with. You may think there is no connection between food and spirituality, but it is there a very strong link. Whatever poisons your body and mind makes your soul toxic too.
Junk food belongs to the rubbish dump, but we choose to feed our bodies with it. We neglect wholesome food made from freshly-grown farm produce and opt to eat food that is laden with preservatives and other chemicals. We poison our bodies, minds and souls with sugary and salty foods and beverages. Our tummies have become the dumping ground for all the unwholesome food that industries prepare. Not even the meat we eat can be trusted because animals are fed with chemicals and organic food to grow faster.
How about what we feed our eyes and ears with? Television is the culprit in this case. You sit on your couch and watch negative news and programs. You see people killing one another and enjoy it. Rape and other forms of violations become commonplace to you because of constant repetition in the programs you watch. Horror movies no longer scare you and you have no problem watching a person sucking the blood of another, even if it is just acting. You celebrate violence, crime, infidelity and betrayal and this continues to poison you spiritual faculties.
The internet is much worse. Apart from all the servings of television, you can watch and read unbridled profanities from the privacy of your house. Pornography is free for all. You can watch some deranged religious fanatics cutting off the necks of innocent people in the name of the Supreme Being. All forms of evil stare at you from the internet. Not even your children are spared the negativity and diabolism of the internet.
How Is Spiritual Hunger Manifested?
If you are not sure you have been affected by the people and events that surround you to the point that you need to check into a spiritual clinic immediately, ask yourself the following questions:
Do you find yourself frustrated when you cannot find negative news on TV, the internet, social media or life in general?
Are you the kind of person who talks negatively about almost everything even without intending to do so?
Do you often find yourself wishing that something negative happens to another person or people?
Are you always bored and unenthusiastic about life, seeing nothing good in what you and others do?
Have you been deserted by friends apparently because they cannot stand your negativity or you emit negative energy?
Do you hate being around people who are happy or those who exude optimism at all times?
Are you the type of person who finds sleep hard to come by even after spending most of the day working?
Do you experience bad dreams and nightmares in the few moments when sleep obeys you?
Do you always feel victimised when negative events happen to you?
Have you lost joy in life; the smile of a child; the beauty in nature and the summer breeze?
Do you shun places of prayer and detest moments of silence when you can reconnect with yourself?
If your answer to most or all of the questions above is YES, then you need spiritual help. It means that you have lost touch with yourself and the Supreme Being. You have no idea what is going on in your inner self. You spiritual compass is not working. In the words of a famous poem, “the centre cannot hold together and your life is falling apart!”
It is unfortunate that many of us find ourselves in these situations and do not know that we are actually trapped. We assume that this is the normal pattern of things and that positive change will come automatically. Even when we realise something is wrong with ourselves, we blame others while leaving the real cause of the problem untouched – ourselves.
Here Are Important Tips On How To Emancipate Ourselves From Spiritual Starvation!
Know yourself: Take time to understand the way your mind, body and soul work and are interrelated in order to detect when you are in need of spiritual help.
Meditate: Meditation will help you to get peace in the mind and soul. It will reconnect you with your your spirit.
Pray: If you are a religious person, go back to the basics of your religion. Reconnect with the Supreme Being and ask for renewal.
Fast: When you deny yourself food for some time, your body and mind will undergo cleansing. You will also get time to pray and meditate.
Make merry: When you engage in genuine laughter, especially through genuine interaction with friends and relatives, you will free yourself of stress which hinders spiritual growth.
Help others: In the spiritual and physical world, human beings are interconnected. Helping other people brings joy to them and you too and uplifts you spiritually.
Read: Spirituality is associated with religious texts. Whichever religion you subscribe to, look for its sacred book and get spiritual nourishment.
Sing: Music elevates and rejuvenates your mind and soul. For spiritual purposes, look for sacred music and sing, listen or do both for spiritual nurture.
Exercise: This may sound strange but when you give your body regular exercise, it becomes more flexible and the mind becomes clearer to appreciate spiritual matters.
Minimise your interaction with television, the internet and social media and instead spend time in a natural environment.